We know that stress is bad for our health, yet we can still sometimes feel guilty for taking the time to relax. In this guest blog Ashley talks about getting over the guilt and her techniques for taking time out to recharge…
Our busy lives can get the best of us some days. With deadlines to meet and families to look after, it’s easy to see how we can get overwhelmed, drained of energy and stressed.
Feeling stressed can make us irritated with those we love, with us taking our frustrations out on them. It also has the effect of making us feel less joy and fulfilment in our jobs and our roles as family members and ultimately can lead to the activities that we used to enjoy becoming chores.
No-one benefits from being constantly stressed, yet it’s easy to feel guilty to take the time to relax, especially if other people are dependent on you.
How to avoid the guilt
1. Keep in mind that you are better when you’re rested. Better for yourself and better for everyone else in your life.
How can you expect to be able to take care of other people, and other responsibilities if you have neglected your own needs?
2. Know that you deserve it
Sometimes it’s difficult to believe that you actually deserve to take time for yourself. You may believe that it’s down to you to hold all the pieces of your life together. So much so, that if you take a minute to yourself, to put your feet up, everything will just crumble around you. However, everything won’t fall apart if you take an hour out of your day to relax. Its more likely that everything will benefit because you did!
“Each person deserves a day away in which no problems are confronted, no solutions searched for. Each of us needs to withdraw from the cares which will not withdraw from us. “ Maya Angelou
How to relax
For some it’s the literal act of doing nothing.
Drawing a warm bubble bath, sitting by a crackling fire, watching the sunset on a deck with a glass in your hand…
For others it might be creativity that resets your inner balance.
Painting, writing, reading, or putting together a really huge puzzle! The options to be creative are endless. Local art galleries, craft stores and artists often offer classes, or instructional nights to help those of us less imaginative in finding our creative center. Expanding your mind to something new and outside of your typical obligations can be extremely relaxing, not to mention fun and you get to learn a new skill too!
Others will find travel to be relaxing.
Lying on a white sandy beach while fruity cocktails are delivered to your chair, or hiking to the tallest peaks, and exploring new and remote areas of the world. Taking in the scenery, the foods, and immersing yourself in other cultures whilst being away from your own daily activities.
Finally some might find relaxation in physical movement
This might seem counter productive, but moving your body can be extremely useful when resetting your mind. Why not join a team or take a class? Something as simple as playing in the backyard with your family, or taking the dog for a walk can be equally as important for your mind and body.
However you choose to relax, can afford to relax, or find the time to relax, it is important to know you DO deserve it!
I’d love to know how you relax. Let me know in the comments below.
Guest post by Ashley Meurs
Ashley’s blog tells the stories of her life living on a farm with her husband and 3 children. Check out her blog at: www.livinthecountrylife.com