From overcoming anxiety and depression, to developing her own business in personal development, Lucy Smith tells us her inspiring story…
When you were a child what did you want to be when you grew up?
I always wanted to work with children. I was passionate about helping people, especially children.
Why did you study childcare at college?
I wanted to work in childcare, I always knew that’s what I wanted to do. After college I got a job at a nursery and worked there for 4 years before starting as a teaching assistant in a special needs secondary school.
What was it about personal development that interested you?
During my education I had always been shy and found it difficult socialising. It wasn’t until a few years ago I realised I was suffering with anxiety and depression. I built up the courage to go to the doctors and ended up seeing a counsellor every week for a couple of months. The tools she gave me really helped, I overcame my fear of driving and shopping alone. As well as improving anger and stress management and generally feeling happier. She recommended the book ‘Finding Peace In A Frantic World’ which is what introduced me to the personal development world. I then began reading every book I could, discovered podcasts, YouTube channels and so much more that supported me on my journey.
Don’t worry about what others think of you, don’t give it any thought. All that matters is how you feel about yourself.
How have you overcome your confidence issues?
I truly believe that confidence is a lot to do with how you feel about yourself and your mindset. As I felt happier and overcame my fears I began to believe in myself more which in turn grew my confidence. When I did my NLP course I learnt a great tool for instantly feeling a desired state, so I’ve since created one for confidence and use it when needed. Luckily it isn’t that often as my mindset is so strong now from all the personal development I do daily. Read: My Morning Routine
What were the difficulties in starting your own business?
The main difficulty for me was maintaining a positive mindset and continuing to believe in myself when I didn’t instantly get clients. I knew that it would take a while to get regular clients, but at the start, I did have the occasional knock to my confidence when it didn’t happen. I managed to work through this using NLP techniques and committing to working on my personal development daily.
What advice would you give someone who also suffered from anxiety and lack of confidence?
I would say to them to not be too hard on themselves. To understand that everyone has challenges and everyone has a bad day and it doesn’t make them a bad person. Personal development is so useful to improving your mindset so I would highly recommend looking at podcasts and YouTube channels for support and ideas. Make time for yourself to look after yourself, this will help in so many ways. Listen to to what your body is telling you, if you want a break from your to-do list then take one and don’t feel guilty. You have to put yourself first to feel and be the best you can be.
What advice would you give your younger self?
The only judgement and opinions that matter are your own. Don’t worry about what others think of you, don’t give it any thought. All that matters is how you feel about yourself. I definitely needed this advice in school when my confidence lacked most.
Lucy is a personal development coach at www.succeednow.co.uk. She has always been passionate about helping others and after overcoming her own challenges decided to train in NLP and become a personal development coach to help others improve their mindset.