Are comfort zones a comfortable place to live?

Are comfort zones a comfortable place to live?

2 May, 2018 17 comments

We all want to be comfortable right? Comfortable in our jobs, in our relationships, and how we look… Surely that’s the goal? But being stuck in a comfort zone can create an illusion of being comfortable. Let me explain…


Sarah has a good job. She works for a large firm, at middle management level.  She’s great at her job. Her boss would be lost if she left. She gets on well with her work colleagues and she’s comfortable in the role.

The thing is Sarah knows that she’s capable of so much more.  She’s been in the same role for 5 years. During that time her job hasn’t changed.  She can do the job with her eyes closed. She doesn’t feel challenged. Every week is the same and she spends the week waiting for Friday.

Sarah has recently bought a house. It took awhile to save up for the deposit, but she did it and now she has a home that she loves. Sarah gets paid each month and earns enough to pay her bills with a bit left over for personal spending.

If you asked her, Sarah would tell you that she feels comfortable. Comfortable but not happy. She would love to try something new. She thinks about applying for another job in another company, working with different people, learning new skills. But the security of her current role prevents her from even applying. What if the grass isn’t greener? What if she gives up comfortable for something worse?

Comfort zone

Sarah used to dream about running her own business. In her spare time she paints and used to have a dream of selling her art work. That dream has long. Giving up a regular job to run a business would be far too risky. What if she didn’t make enough money to pay her bills? Just thinking about it makes her feel very uncomfortable.

Sarah might not be happy but she’s comfortable, and that’s good enough isn’t it?


Life will only change when you become more committed to your dreams that you are to your comfort zones

 

So what advice would you give to Sarah? Should she stick with what she’s comfortable with or do something outside of her comfort zone? What would you do in her situation?

It is said that comfort zones are where your dreams go to die. Making do with the situation that you’re in means that you’re not pushing yourself to do anything different. Fear of unknown or the uncertainty of what a change might bring prevents you from taking a chance and making any changes.

So how do you push yourself out of your comfort zone when you feel so comfortable within it?

Take advantage of opportunities

Be aware of opportunities within your current circle, but yet are different to what you do already. Then take advantage of those situations:

  • a new position at work
  • a training course that you see advertised
  • a friend asking you to come to a seminar with her

 

Volunteer for the new position, register for the training course and be a good friend and go along to the seminar with her. You never know where any of these decisions might lead.

Take advantage of these situations is the first step, just on the outer edge of your comfort zone. You’re not drastically changing anything. Just dipping your toe in the water.

 

Add to the life that you already have

If you’re comfortable in your current situation, you’re reluctant to change anything in case you make it worse. So instead of changing your situation, or removing something from it, what about adding to it?

Do something in addition to what you do already. Attend an evening course to up skill, start a new hobby, volunteer.. so you’re not changing your current situation, but you’re opening yourself up to new possibilities without rocking the boat that you’re already in.

 

Book a holiday

There’s nothing like travelling to open your eyes. Learning about another country, their culture, history, language, food, expands your appreciation on just how wonderful our world is. Travelling will definitely change your perspective on your current situation, and once you’ve started you’ll want to do more.

 

A comfort zone is comfortable. But nothing exciting lives there.

What do you do to push yourself outside your comfort zone? Do you find it an easy thing to do? What advise would you give Sarah. Leave a comment below.

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17 comments

Lisa 2 May, 2018 - 7:27 pm

My advice to Sarah is to pursue what makes her happy, if it’s painting and selling it makes her happy, do it on the side bring in a little income, the work to run a small business is not easy In the beginning but the pay out in the long run will make it worth it. Comfortable is good but comfortable and happy are even better.

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Lucy 2 May, 2018 - 7:50 pm

If you’re feeling too scared to make a complete jump into the unknown, trying it out on the side is a great idea.

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Michelle 2 May, 2018 - 8:12 pm

I don’t believe in settling in comfort zones for too long — comfort is never a good thing. I always advise people to try something new, shake up their status quo, and trust failure. I know it’s much easier said than done and I have also settled in comfort zones for far too long, but it’s great to see the big world out there and to trust that it will embrace you.

Great post! x

Michelle
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Masha 2 May, 2018 - 9:33 pm

The comfort zone can indeed be a dangerous place if we have convinced ourselves that we are comfortable in a situation that does not breed happiness. The advice I would give Sarah is to stay at her job for now, continuing to make an income, but to work on her art in her free time, making enough to start a small internet shop perhaps or sell at various fairs on the weekends, basically starting her own business as a side business which she can grow. There is a good chance that she could grow her business to the point where her income from it would be enough for her to give notice and solely focus on her dream and from there she could potentially be very successful. I would tell her to at least give it a try

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Shawn @ Healthy Wealthy Skinny 2 May, 2018 - 10:07 pm

My advice to Sarah would be that growth happens outside of your comfort zone. If she steps outside of her comfort zone she will find herself challenged and enjoying life.

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Shelley 3 May, 2018 - 12:58 am

It’s important to push ourselves out of our comfort zones. I would encourage her to set the big goals then a bunch of mini goals to get to the big one. Baby steps.

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Nadalie Bardo 3 May, 2018 - 2:52 am

It can be completely unsettling when you take a risk in trying something new or diving into something that has a lot of risks if you aren’t certain you’re going to make it out on top. BUT you miss 100% of the opportunities you don’t take, if you don’t do it now, you may never do it in the future,

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Maddy 3 May, 2018 - 12:56 pm

I think growth comes when we step outside our comfort zone!

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Cassie & Joseph - No Compass Necessary 3 May, 2018 - 1:17 pm

Ahhh comfort zones – the best and the worst place to be! I would get out… Having a good support system is key when you need help getting out of your comfort zone.

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Tara 3 May, 2018 - 4:23 pm

i would say always find time to do what makes you happy – whether it’s something big or small! Push yourself to reach outside of your comfort zone – sometimes you surprise yourself in a good way!

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Shannon 4 May, 2018 - 4:08 pm

Super thought provoking post! I’m a relatively risk-averse person, but I would tell Sarah that it never hurts to see what else is out there. It’s not an all-or-nothing. She can look and see if there’s something out there that would light her fire and bring her more joy without just up and quitting her job. Also, if she’s not willing to do so, looking into other ways to bring passion to her life through hobbies and activities. She will never know what could be out there if she doesn’t at least look.

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Lucy 4 May, 2018 - 4:53 pm

I think you’ve hit the nail on the head there – you’ll never know what you can become if you don’t try. Surely not knowing is worse?

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Bree 4 May, 2018 - 4:49 pm

My advice to Sarah is to get the EFF out of her comfort zone. I worked in the same job for 3 years and the routine of the job was so soul sucking! Life is wayyyy too short to be stuck in an office all day pursuing someone else’s dream!

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Lucy 4 May, 2018 - 4:52 pm

Great advice from someone who’s already been there. Thanks Sarah!

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Angela 6 May, 2018 - 1:19 am

I know it’s scary, we feel safe in our comfort zones but I think the psychological effects of not realizing your dreams or going after a job you know you deserve is more detrimental. I constantly have to fight to find the courage to do things I’m uncomfortable with but that satisfaction and sense of accomplishment afterwards is so worth the initial anxiety.

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Jen @ Jenron-Designs 6 May, 2018 - 2:25 am

I personally believe it great to be comfortable in your own skin, so much so, that you are always willing to take chances that are outside of your comfort zone. You will never know, if you never try.

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Alexandria 8 May, 2018 - 1:29 pm

So true! It’s not always good to be comfortable, always challenge yourself!

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